Saturday, March 14, 2009

Love is not a feeling

"Love is not a feeling, its an ability!"

~from the Movie "Dan in Real life"


Syra said...

Indeed :)

Asma said...

Ditto :>

Such a pretty dp !

khany said...

- a person in love, then, is an enabled person.

- in the physical sciences 'energy' is sometimes loosely defined as the 'ability' to do work.

if both these statements are true then one should suspect that there should be a degree of correspondence between an energized person (say after a sugar high from ingesting a load of candy) and a person in love.

are they similar?
they are in some measure. both persons are characterized by kind of restlessness and an eagerness to do things.

however, i think there is an aspect of love that is not captured by describing it as an ability (or energy). and this aspect is inspiration. while many of us are 'able' to act in constructive ways, only those in love have the focus and creativity to channel their energy towards accomplishing a task.

p.s. i know. i know. too scientific.

Saira Andleeb said...

You're a true geek Khany :P ... :)

When in love, people either chose to continue to love the person, or to live without them. The ones who choose to go against all odds and be with that person or continue to love them are indeed very capable beings! Because nothing hurts like love and people who chose to bear that are indeed very brave.

@"only those in love have the focus and creativity to channel their energy towards accomplishing a task." ... well i think not everyone in love is capable of accompolishing the task, that is why not everyone is capable of truly loving and only giving ... or probably those who cant accomplish the task most desired by them (i.e. getting/continuing-to-love the beloved)are probably not in love and only infatuated.

:S ... :)

Saira Andleeb said...

Thanks Asma, i made that some 8 years back. Thats a cartoon of me, when i was a little older than a tot <:P> :)

khany said...

'not everyone in love is capable of accomplishing the task'.

i feel, however, that accomplishing the task is not popularly considered a measure of love's sincerity. rather it is the passion (focus and creativity) that are the hallmarks of 'true love'. no?

Saira Andleeb said...

"it is the passion (focus and creativity) that are the hallmarks of 'true love'. no?"

Yes, I agree but if one has that passion, isn't that gonna force her to accomplish the task? ... at least the passion will force the lover to produce enough evidence of having tried her best to accomplish the task .. no? and if so then doesn't "accomplishing the task" or trying ones best to accomplish the task become a measure of love's sincerity?

And that is how i think this feeling becomes a measure of ones capability because the passion is so overwhelming that its not bearable for everyone.

This is what i think, what do you say?

khany said...

geekiness knows no bounds. helen fischer shows through functional magnetic resonance image (mri) scans of the brain in love, that "love is not an emotion, it is a drive'
the science of love (around 5.45)

in fact, ms. fisher recognizes energy as a characteristic of a person in love together with focus (at 3.10 minutes).

if you liked her first video. here she shares more poetry and talks about the science of rejection and being dumped.
the brain in love

as to you question:
i agree.
love produces evidence to confirm itself, its sincerity. trying one's best is indeed in this spirit. but succeeding in one's trial ... i have no control over success.

Monay said...

"Tearless grief bleeds inwardly"

Saira Andleeb said...

@Mona: Sigh! and when it does it inevitably shows on the outside too!

Saira Andleeb said...

Your comment reminded me of the following:

koi merey dil se pooche tere teer-e-neemkash ko
yeh khalish kahaan se hoti jo jigar ke paar hota!